Love Creates Love is a monthly meet up designed to give you some well deserved TLC and to connect with other parents and babies in your area. Come and chill out, meet some new people, share how things are going for you and learn about enhancing the bond with your baby through love. All parents and babies welcome (come along if you are pregnant too). All totally free and brought to you with tea, cake and love.
First of all can I say, thank you. You are an amazing example of how love can create love. Through attending this group, you are helping to spread the message of love and kindness and share love in your community. There is so much information about why early attachment is so important and how community support can change lives, Love Creates Love groups put theory into practice. By reaching out and connecting with others, anything is possible.
Love, look after and nurture yourself. You feel better, more positive, energetic and happy.
When you love others, you create secure and confident relationships of trust filled with positive communication, understanding and kindness.
Love your Community
When people come together in love, BIG things can happen like positive social change, freedom and justice.
Where does love start?
It starts with everyone. Our thoughts and actions everyday. It can begin at anytime. A fantastic time to discover the importance of love creation is when you become pregnant. You have the opportunity to create a love filled environment to nurture your child and support his/her development. Every child who receives love has the capacity to go on and give love, and so it continues.
Love creates Love - Babies
Babies are love. They are open to learning how to give and receive love. They are non-judgmental and open minded. This means parents have an
amazing opportunity to help shape how their babies brain develops and how they perceive the world. This window of opportunity to help support a baby’s emotional development is vital to help create a secure child who is confident to explore the world, interacting with others with the knowledge he/she is loved.
A parent is a baby’s first teacher and he/she learns about emotions, feelings and social interaction from him/her. Love lessons are the best ones to share with babies; they create the potential for happy and healthy relationships. It sounds simple, but sometimes it can be difficult to share love if you are not feeling it for yourself or have not experienced it. Creating and sharing love can start and happen at any time. Not everyone falls in love at first sight. Love grows and blossoms over time and with attention. The good news is that there are things you can do to help create love.
Love Creates Love: Love Your Baby
The idea behind Love creates Love is simple; to create a reciprocal loving and secure relationship between parents and babies which is mutually beneficial and long lasting. It is easy to communicate to a baby he/she is loved through activities such as holding a baby, singing and talking to a baby, making eye contact and responding to a baby’s needs. Love starts with respect and recognition of a baby’s needs, evolves through positive communication and understanding and is facilitated through physical touch and interaction. Touch is the ultimate way to communicate to someone that he/she is acknowledged, accepted and cared for. Even before we understand the significance of touch, our bodies crave it. Touch and skin contact has been shown to be more valued by infant mammals than even food (Harlow 1956).
Studies show that babies who are regularly massaged and touched cry less, sleep better and gain weight faster than those that are not (Field 1987, 1995). This is thought to be due to the fact that feel good hormones released during massage activate babies’ relaxation responses and therefore body functions are improved. It makes sense. We feel better when we are relaxed.
The fantastic thing about baby massage is it combines the five key factors which are seen to help increase a loving bond between parent and baby;
The benefits of baby massage are not just for infancy. Massage helps you tune in and listen to a child, lets you observe your child’s cues and become responsive to his/her needs. Through positive and reciprocal interaction parents can fulfil a baby or child’s emotional needs and help to create a loving secure attachment which studies now show is vital to enable healthy brain development. When we teach love to children, we are teaching that the world is a loving place and helping to create a strong and secure emotional blueprint from which he/she can use to build other relationships. Consistent and repetitive care is seen to be the key factor (Bowlby 1969).
And now for the science……. I love research!
I love science and research. “Love creates Love” may sound like a simple idea but it is built on information from studies of how the infant brain develops and how, as mammals, we react to touch.
There have been lots of studies done on the importance of positive interaction for infants and children. Sadly, much of the work focuses on children who have been exposed to neglect where high levels of stress hormones coupled with minimum adult interaction has resulted in permanent changes in their brain structure leading to impaired emotional wellbeing and difficulty in adjusting to stress and anxiety in adulthood (Rutter 1989 et al). There has been much work done on the idea that many emotional difficulties suffered by adults stem from early but poor interactions experienced as children. Childhood is the key time to create, experience and demonstrate love.
In addition, the “Love Creates Love” concept follows ideas evolved from research produced by The Center on the Developing Child at Harvard University. The Center refers to a concept called “Serve and Return” to describe positive reciprocal interaction between a baby and parent. As the parent teaches, the baby learns, the parent responds with a positive cue and an association in the baby’s brain is made. These early interactions are vital to how the early infant brain becomes wired and responsive and help create the foundations for emotional intelligence (Goleman 1995). To find out more about research supporting baby massage click here.
Below are two videos which explain the importance of early interaction;
Love Create Love Groups
Love Create Love Groups help to build a sense of community and connections between parents which can provide support outside the monthly group. Studies have shown that we are happiest when we feel connected to others and that a lack of connection and acceptance can be at the root of issues such as depression and addiction (See http://upliftconnect.com/opposite-addiction-connection/)
This video below summarises this brilliantly.
Through Love Creates Love groups we can share love and connection and create a sense of belonging which is invaluable.
It we help to support and nurture parents in the first year of life to be as happy and relaxed as possible, this positivity and energy may flow into your relationships with your children and give the whole family the best start together. Babies learn from their parents so the more relaxed and positive parents feel, the more babies understand the world to be this way.
The message is “Be Love”. Be an example in your thoughts, words and action. Choose love everyday. Take the loving option in all you do and bring love into the world.
You are amazing!